Sarah Kogod writes about what you shouldn’t say to someone who is suffering through infertility, as Erin and I did. She also mentions what you should say:

What can I do?

The fertility process can make everyone feel helpless — from the couple going through it to the friends who don’t know what to say. This one question empowers both of you. It allows the couple to tell you what they need, and lets them know it’s okay if those needs change as things get harder. And it lets you feel like you’ve said the right thing, when everything else sounds wrong.

(Link via Rick Gore)